Earth School – So, How’s Your Homework Coming Along? Part 2

So, how’s your spiritual homework coming along? This week, let’s take a look at our less than helpful behavior patterns that we may be repeating and ignoring, and that grows into bigger and bigger life problems as a result. These are the tougher issues that we came here to resolve, believe it or not. And if we don’t resolve them, they will escalate until we cannot ignore them.  We can choose not to face into them, but then we have more and more serious consequences to deal with. In order to understand this concept better, we’ll look at a life lesson and follow it as if we were ignoring it and see how it can snowball.

Let’s use the deep spiritual lesson that we cannot control how other people feel about us because we must learn to love and accept ourselves regardless how anyone feels about us. Now this lesson can take lifetimes of practice to master, but it is the most important life lesson to learn for many of us. Let’s imagine that this is the lifetime when you will finally master it. Your life contract sets you up to born into a family with very broken parents who do not know how to love and accept themselves. Because of this, you cannot learn how to love and accept yourself. Remember from my last blog- a person can’t give what they do not have? So as a child we look for this mirroring of love and acceptance for ourselves from the people we depend most on, our parents or caregivers. And we will do everything in our powerless state to make it happen. So, since we cannot really control our parents, we will start controlling ourselves in the attempt to get them to love and accept us. We will push aside anything about ourselves that our parents do not seem to like about us. This can take a wide variety of forms, depending on the child and the circumstances they are living with. A child can start to negate, hide, or deny any part of themselves; their emotional responses, their behavioral responses and even how they think, depending how deep their need to be loved and accepted is in a given family. So, this child has created a shadow inside their heart where they hide all the things that they believe are unlovable or unacceptable about themselves. And these parts of who they really are that are left in the shadows are feeling abandoned, starved, and unable to mature into a healthy aspect of the growing child’s true self. This is the soil for self-denial, self-hate, and a rigid self-control to begin to send their roots deep into the tender heart of this child. As the child grows, they try to perfect themselves into whatever they believe their parents want them to appear to be. The child is now an extreme perfectionist by the time they are a young teenager. Their self-talk can be distorted and can reinforce a feeling of a lack of self-worth. With the onset of hormones, they may become depressed. As you can see, the child’s emotional and mental health issues are now snowballing into something larger and harder to heal. Now, this can, and sadly can continue far out into adulthood and negatively manifest in a person’s life in many unhealthy ways. But, for brevity’s sake, let’s think about our example as having a positive spiritual and emotionally healing result.

 Let’s say that this child is recognized as needing help by a loving and observant teacher, school counselor, or family member. And that over the course of time, the child begins individual psychotherapy, and the parents and child begin going for family counseling. The child begins to heal emotionally, and the parents learn about themselves, their own wounds, and behavior. The parents then learn self-awareness and develop healthier skill sets for being better parents during therapy. Then the child is allowing themself to be more of their true self, and things improve for the better at home. Now this child is learning to love and accept their true self, and the parents are learning to be more loving and accepting of themselves and of the child and the child’s needs. In this example, we see a major, spiritual life lesson that was successfully learned relatively early in the life of this child. This positive outcome will resonate throughout their adulthood as growing into becoming a more whole, loving, and giving human being.

So, this is the reward of having completed an important part of your spiritual homework. Life will be more joyful if unencumbered by a lesson that you chose to face into and learn for your highest and greatest good. Because it truly is for your benefit that all the lessons and challenges in life were created. I do not want to sound simplistic, because I am well aware of how hard life can be. I am as human as any of you who are reading this, and I have had my share of really rough life lessons. It is only that I am offering you another, healing perspective and a way forward to freedom and spiritual growth instead of choosing to endlessly repeat what wounds you. It will, however, take your determined and persistent commitment to yourself to get there, which self- love in action. It will take a seasoned professional therapist and/or psychiatrist, a spiritual healer and/or counselor, and your Higher Self to find out who your truly are. And you will have to choose to dance in the emotional flames of your shadow self until you burn away the false self you needed to create from some point in your life. Once that false self is nothing but emotional ashes, and you love and accept yourself, then you will joyfully uncover and be your true Self.

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I wish you all the best on your life’s journey.

 Namaste,

 Jean 🌱